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Filed under: POTTY TRAINING WITH YOUR NANNY — auntemma @ 4:02 am

Potty training with your nanny


Potty training takes effort, patience (lots of it) and a lot of positive reinforcement. This is one area of your child’s development that cannot be rushed and must be initiated in a delicate manner. Your child must NEVER feel intimidated when during this process.


Potty training can be introduced to child that is between the ages of 18-36 months. There are lots of signs a child shows that can indicate whether your child is ready for potty training.

Some of the signs include, staying dry for at least 2hours(which indicates a sign of bladder readiness), regularity in bowel movements, communicating discomfort when wet or pooped. Most children that show signs of potty training are also predictable with their body language when it comes to going  poo, they either hide, or stand or sit still in some corner somewhere for “privacy” during their go or you will also notice a difference in their facial expression during the “go” process. If your child shows some these signs, then it is obvious that he/she is ready to be potty trained.


Potty training takes team effort with you and the caregiver and CONSISTENCY with whichever method you decide on. YOU MUST BE CONSISTENT WITH THE RULES OF ENGAGEMENT SO THAT YOU DON’T LOSE THE MOMENTUM TO YOUR RESULTS. The moment your child senses you failure to being consistent, you are bound to lose.

Whichever method you decide to choose, there are some key factors that you must apply to see results.


  • Don’t allow your child to sense your frustration
  • Definitely do not yell at your child
  • Do use praise often
  • Don’t go expecting perfection
  • Don’t push the child to perform
  • Don’t focus on the negative
  • Don’t compare to anyone else’s experience


Potty training is a very sensitive development for your child, its more psychological for child that it is for you. To the child it’s a stepping stone to independency. You must always show support and courage and allowing the child to feel like he/she can do it. 


For example, during your beginning stages, if your child has an accident but runs to the potty anyway, reward the child with praise for the effort. Don’t focus on the negative aspect of the accident, but use words such as “ Good Job, now next time let’s try putting it all in the potty”. Remember your response will either build your child’s potential or break it. Every effort counts and must be rewarded with praise no matter how little.


Now in the case of a nanny or caretaker, you must communicate daily on the progress, because you want to make sure that you and the nanny remain consistent. Some nannies get really frustrated because it feels like the parents sometimes do things abit different from the initial agreement. It’s not entirely the nanny’s responsibility to push this through, but more importantly you as the parent. You are your number one child’s role model. If you fail to comply, then it makes it twice as hard for your nanny to assist successfully in potty training.








Filed under: IMPROVING PARENT/NANNY COMMUNICATION — auntemma @ 10:12 pm



Communication between you and your nanny is vital.  Both the parent and nanny must encourage communication as much as possible. Effective communication between you and your nanny contributes a great deal to the way your nanny showcases her professional care towards your child.  As the parent, its important to keep up with the details of your child’s developments, new skills acquired, behaviors and such.


At the end of every week try and get home ten to fifteen minutes earlier to discuss with the nanny how your child’s week has been overall such as, concerns she might have towards your child, difficulties she might have stumbled across through the week when taking care of your child and suggestions she might want to share to improve any matter.

Discussing with the nanny about the child’s needs or concerns is a great sign to the nanny because it shows her that her work is not taken for granted or lightly, and can also create a great bond between you and your nanny which is a great plus to your child.


Take the time to discuss with the nanny if she’s happy with her work, whether or not she is has come across any challenges in her position and if so, what do you both feel can be done to improve those situations. So many nannies carry a lot of burdens and resentments inside them and because the parents do not make room for discussions, the situations are left unresolved which can cause a snowball effect that can sometimes end in disaster. In some cases of where a nanny has turned out to be abusive to the children, its  just end results of lack of communication between both parties (nanny and parent) and due to frustrations that have been lingering, the nanny ends up taking it out on the child.

 Allow the nanny to feel that you are approachable and that she can come to you with whatever concern she has. There is absolutely no reason for your nanny to feel intimidated by you, your child is important and its important for you to be aware of your nanny’s outlook in her position.


Be open with your nanny let her know how you feel based on her overall performance, good or bad. Always encourage an open communication between you and your nanny.


Parents are sometimes faced with situations whereby they know they have hired the right nanny and she is definitely great at what she does, but there just seems to be a trend in some of the things she does that are just not rubbing you the right way or things you just don’t agree with.  Depending on the situation, the nanny could be unaware of your feelings.  Some families feel uncomfortable bringing the situation up because they feel it just might ruin the relationship you have between you and your nanny. But just like any other relationship, it must be discussed otherwise it remains a ticking bomb waiting to explode at the wrong time.

1.    Don’t bring up the matter when you feel that you are not emotionally stable to discuss it. In other words don’t bring it up  when you are angry. You just might regret a lot of the things you say.

2.    Make sure you have facts, not assumptions on the matter.

3.    Schedule a meeting with the nanny, don’t just blurt it out when you see her.

4.    After you have brought up the matter, allow her to explain her actions.

5.    After you have heard her reasoning, let her know that you were not happy with the issue and suggest other options.

6.    Let her know that you appreciate her work overall. Not only when you have a crease to straighten should you express your appreciation, but also when it’s unexpected. A card with the words “thank you”, a gift card to her favorite store, a massage certificate or monetary gifts are a great way of expressing the family’s gratitude towards your nanny.


Some of these sticky situations are just creases that can easily be ironed out if handled maturely. Unless the situation is life-threatening, always give your nanny another chance to prove herself.


Don’t compare yourself to the nanny- some parents have a tendency of comparing themselves with the nanny with the mindset of who does it better. This way of thinking is very wrong and can cause a major rift in your relationship with your nanny. It’s true that mommy knows best, but depending on the circumstance it will be good to hear the nanny’s ideas based on her professional background. Allowing the nanny to come up with some suggestions in helping bring up your child is a great way of displaying team work between you and your nanny and leaves a great door of a healthy communication between the both of you.


Remember your nanny is a stand-in for you when you are not around, She takes the time to care and love your children. Your children have grown to love and appreciate her and you don’t want small matters to cause huge unnecessary ramifications, which could have been easily avoided through effective communication.


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