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Filed under: BETHENNY FRANKEL AND GINA — auntemma @ 7:12 pm

I’m not usually a fan of reality tv programs, just for the sole purpose of avoiding the luring feeling of watching every episode. But there is one that has managed to capture my attention and for a number of reasons. “Bethenny ever after”, stars a new yorkan talented entrepreneur (bethenny frankel) who balances her life as mom, wife and business mogul. As a side note, I always find myself amazed at women who are able to balance their personal life and a successful business life and be good at it. In this case, what has really caught my attention is the relationship that bethenny and her baby nurse/nanny have… Gina is her baby nurse whom she hired to have as her help when bryn(bethenny’s first daughter) was born. Usually baby nurses are around up to a month or less but in this case gina has been working indefinitely!! which is not a bad thing at all, infact, its a plus for both of them. What really struck me was the way the relationship they all had!! Amazing!! is all i can say… Its a relationship that all nannies would dream of having with their clients. I always stress about nanny/parent communication which is extremely vital, DON’T just communicate with your nanny when you only have something to say that is baby related, get to know your nanny!! Encourage open lines of communication, get to know her family, her likes, her dislikes and who she really is. Bethenny and gina’s relationship is respectful and honorable, She(bethenny) has taken gina(a trinidadian lady) in as part of her family, In one episode gina had no problem letting bethenny know about her  personal issues that included some of the things she was undergoing with her ex husband. On another episode, bethenny takes gina out for a pedicure for her birthday has a cake ordered and celebrates with jason(bethenny’s husband) and of course baby Bryn, the act of kindness and appreciation brings gina to tears. Bethenny( NY times bestseller and celebrity natural food chef) is not embrassed to show appreciation to her nanny in public despite her status.

This kind of treatment,respect and appreciation is the prime decision to why gina seems to dig in her heels and be the quality care provider for baby Bryn. Gina is happy, baby bryn is happy and everyone’s happy!!! Bethenny has managed to get the best out of her nanny and baby bryn is now the ultimate recipient of a nanny/parent relationship gone great!!!

Show appreciation and interest in your nanny’s affairs… I guarantee you, it will go a long way.. Invest in your children by showing them you care for the one who cares for them. I often see alot of adults care more for the one that cares for their cars than for those who care for their children. A nanny should not be looked down upon and treated like a third wheel, but someone whose career should be taken with respect.

Kudos to you bethenny for setting the standard!!!



Filed under: Should I have a nanny contract — auntemma @ 4:25 pm

Yes. Having a nanny contract encourages professionalism and  accountability between you and your nanny. Nanny contracts bring clarity and agreements in what is to expected in her responsibilities. You’ll find that most people avoid  having a contract because they think it will affect the relationship between you and your nanny, but the reality is not having one can affect your relationship and cause a lot of confusion between you and your nanny.  Most conflicts that arise between a parent and nanny could have easily been avoided if a contract was drafted. Issues such as holiday pay, vacation pay, sick pay and overtime pay always seem to be the number one issue that causes tension in the nanny industry. Such concerns have to be drafted in a contract that way there is no confusion or misunderstanding.

A professionally written nanny contract can also protect both parties if any legal situations were to arise and must comply with the Fair Labor Standards Act employment law in regards to salary, taxes and worker’s compensation insurance.

A Nanny contract generally display:

  • Nanny’s duties and responsibilities,
  • Salary rate and work hours,
  • Terms of holiday pay, sick pay,vacation pay and overtime pay.
  • Frequency of pay(weekly, bi-weekly, e.t.c.)
  • Boundaries that relate to usage of family car
  • Requirements of Nanny’s car & work related car expenses
  • Termination regulations- making sure each of you gives a two week or a month’s notice.

You can always draft a nanny contract yourself based on what your family needs  and specifics are, there are no limits to how detailed you would like it to be. The more detailed it is the better. You can also get some sample online contracts which you can alter. Make sure you both read, sign, date the contract and create copies for each of you.


LIVE IN NANNY March 22, 2011

Filed under: LIVE IN NANNY — auntemma @ 6:53 pm

It’s important to know whether you are looking to hire a live in nanny or a live out nanny. You must consider the following when deciding.

A) The time you need your nanny to start work.

If you need a nanny to start early in the morning between the hours of 6am- 8am, you probably want to consider having a live-in. Simply because having your nanny commute before getting to work can end up becoming very wearisome by the end of the day which can lead to a lack of enthusiasm when your nanny comes in to work the next day. I always highly recommend an energetic nanny when caring for your children. An energetic nanny is a happy nanny which in turn leads to a happy child.

B) How demanding your profession is.

If you have morning meetings you know your job requires you to be at, or a job that demands your punctuality, then you definitely need to consider a live-in nanny to avoid situations that cause your nanny to be late such as traffic or transportation issues.

C)  Room and board.

Do you think you have the room and space to have a nanny? This plays a key role to the nanny. Making a nanny feel comfortable and assurance of privacy is very important. Please don’t have the nanny share a bathroom with you or your kids. A well cared for nanny should have her own bedroom, bathroom and private entrance if possible. Remember your nanny has a life apart from child rearing and her privacy is most appreciated. Some families are able to provide a separate apt in the house, which is wonderful, because then the nanny can feel the liberty to come in and go as she pleases. Also make sure you go over household rules at the time of the interview with your nanny just so everyone is clear on what is to be expected. NEVER wait after you have hired your nanny and lived with her to set some household rules such as curfew and what not! That’s where you both jeopardize your relationship with each other. Adjustments are welcome especially during the first few months of living together, that’s why weekly or biweekly meetings are vital to have with your nanny.

The difference between a live in nanny and a live out is mostly the issue of privacy between the both of you.  So you want to make sure you pick someone that will be compatible with your lifestyle, someone who understands your family’s personality. A live-in nanny’s pay is abit less than of a live-out depending on the number of children she has to care for, hours and the household responsibilities required, it can range anywhere from $350-$800.

Live in nannies are to be treated with as much respect as a live out nanny. DON’T overwork your live-in nanny just because she lives with you. Some live-in nannies feel a lot taken advantage of because the family assumes she around. It’s a job with set hours just as you would a live-out.  Don’t ask her to work on holidays unless it’s been arranged prior, and if you do, additional pay is required. Overtime and last minute late nights are not to be assumed without discussion between you and the nanny.Some states have a law whereby it is illegal to have your live-in nanny work for you for over 12 hours and or more than 5 days a week. Also, remember if you overload her household chores, then your children will not be getting the attention they so deserve. DON’T expect her to do more than what was discussed at the interview. Adding more responsibilities without compensation and discussion can slowly crush the nanny’s interest for working for you.

A live-nanny is still entitled to holiday pay, salary increase, sick pay the basic just like a live-out. The best way to get your relationship with your nanny bearable is to make sure you treat her like family. It doesn’t always mean you invite to every family function but just making sure she feels comfortable to call your place her home.

Its always advisable to offer some incentives or perks in a live-in package. It just makes it more comfortable for the nanny to feel much more welcome and appreciated. Incentives such as gym memberships, health insurance, a car, e.t.c are helpful in making the nanny feel a part of the family.

Live-in nannies are also entitled to raises, salary bonuses, vacation pay, sick pay, overtime pay and appreciation gifts, just as you would do to a live-out nanny.


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