Potty training with your nanny
Potty training takes effort, patience (lots of it) and a lot of positive reinforcement. This is one area of your child’s development that cannot be rushed and must be initiated in a delicate manner. Your child must NEVER feel intimidated when during this process.
Potty training can be introduced to child that is between the ages of 18-36 months. There are lots of signs a child shows that can indicate whether your child is ready for potty training.
Some of the signs include, staying dry for at least 2hours(which indicates a sign of bladder readiness), regularity in bowel movements, communicating discomfort when wet or pooped. Most children that show signs of potty training are also predictable with their body language when it comes to going poo, they either hide, or stand or sit still in some corner somewhere for “privacy” during their go or you will also notice a difference in their facial expression during the “go” process. If your child shows some these signs, then it is obvious that he/she is ready to be potty trained.
Potty training takes team effort with you and the caregiver and CONSISTENCY with whichever method you decide on. YOU MUST BE CONSISTENT WITH THE RULES OF ENGAGEMENT SO THAT YOU DON’T LOSE THE MOMENTUM TO YOUR RESULTS. The moment your child senses you failure to being consistent, you are bound to lose.
Whichever method you decide to choose, there are some key factors that you must apply to see results.
- Don’t allow your child to sense your frustration
- Definitely do not yell at your child
- Do use praise often
- Don’t go expecting perfection
- Don’t push the child to perform
- Don’t focus on the negative
- Don’t compare to anyone else’s experience
Potty training is a very sensitive development for your child, its more psychological for child that it is for you. To the child it’s a stepping stone to independency. You must always show support and courage and allowing the child to feel like he/she can do it.
For example, during your beginning stages, if your child has an accident but runs to the potty anyway, reward the child with praise for the effort. Don’t focus on the negative aspect of the accident, but use words such as “ Good Job, now next time let’s try putting it all in the potty”. Remember your response will either build your child’s potential or break it. Every effort counts and must be rewarded with praise no matter how little.
Now in the case of a nanny or caretaker, you must communicate daily on the progress, because you want to make sure that you and the nanny remain consistent. Some nannies get really frustrated because it feels like the parents sometimes do things abit different from the initial agreement. It’s not entirely the nanny’s responsibility to push this through, but more importantly you as the parent. You are your number one child’s role model. If you fail to comply, then it makes it twice as hard for your nanny to assist successfully in potty training.