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Time Management March 22, 2016

I have been nannying for over 25 years now, I actually now have my own licensed nanny agency. It’s a pretty cool business to have especially because I love that I get to share my expertise of this industry with both nanny and client.

In my years of being in the childcare, a lot of parents have asked how I am able to make sure I keep my kids on schedule with all that they participate in and still manage to have the house in order, now I don’t do deep housecleaning, but its kept in order.

My secret is time management. I have to intentionally decide to time everything, and i mean everything. I actually make time for last minute tantrums, and by that I make sure I leave room for crying cause “the waffle was not the flavor they wanted” or  because ” I must wear snow boots in the 60degree weather”. It’s amazing the kind of things that can cause a 15 minute delay to you leaving the house on time for school drop off. Without time management you can be so lost and end up so frustrated.

I keep a consistent schedule of what I do from the moment I walk into the door. The routine is so consistent that the kids know exactly what to expect. Now I know it can sound redundant, but here’s the thing, Kids love routine, they yearn for it, they live for it, they act better with it. Don’t feel like you are being a boring parent or nanny if the schedule is always the same. In fact experts say that daily routines brings feelings of predictability and  security which children desperately need.

Time management is very effective not just in the cooperate world but in the home especially when dealing with children. Time management is not just effective for the children but also for you as the adult. If you are having a challenge keeping time, start by writing down your to do and estimate how long it will take to do each task/activity. If you are starting your routine, make sure you stick to it, it might be hard at first, but they will soon get on the bandwagon. Remember, Don’t quit!!!



NANNY REPORT CARD March 27, 2013

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It is important that you take a moment yearly to evaluate your nanny’s job performance in order to give accolades or identify areas for improvement.
The nanny report card is designed to facilitate communication between the nanny and the parent. Communication is the vane of most relationships, an effective open dialogue between the parents and the nannies will yield the greatest results in the child.

In my book “ How to Get the Best out of your Nanny” I talk about the importance on communication between a parent and a nanny. For the parents to get the best out of their nanny, they must communicate! Parents that fail to communicate end up in a soured situation that can easily leave a “dent” on the child’s behavior pattern. Children tend to feed of of our emotions, so if they feel there is tension or a negative reaction to how you treat your nanny, it will show in their behavior.

In addition the report card can be used to honor the nanny with an annual raise and or bonus based on performance and appreciation. So having a report card is a great way to allow the nanny to see how well she performs since communication is a two way act of imparting or exchanging of information I have also written a report card that a nanny can use to evaluate the parents as well. Nannies sometimes feel that there are things they can communicate that will help make the job easier and fun especially for the sake of the children.



1. Do you feel that your nanny is attentive to the child’s safety?

If not, how should she improve?

2. Do you feel that your nanny is meeting your child’s needs?

If not, what do you suggest she does to improve on meeting your child’s needs?

3.Do you feel like your nanny is attentive to your child’s hygiene?
(diaper changing, bath, nail clipping, washing children’s hands.. etc)

If not, what should she do to help improve on your child’s hygiene?

4.Do you feel like you nanny is engaged in appropriate play and activities that help in the child’s growth?

If not, what do you suggest she should do to help her engage the children?

5. Do you think that your nanny is involved in preparing healthy nutritious meals and snacks for the children?

If not, what types of meals and snacks would you like to see her give the children?

6. Do you feel like your nanny shows warmth, love and care to your children?

If not, in what way would you like her to show your children she cares?

7.Do you feel like she disciplines the children according your wishes?

8. If not, give examples of some scenarios where you feel she did not


1.Does your nanny arrive to work on time most of the time?

If not, would you like her to improve on her punctuality?

2.Do you feel like your nanny is dependable and reliable?

3.Do you think your nanny shows professionalism?

4. Does your nanny communicate effectively to you about the welfare of your child?

If not, how should she improve?

5.Do you feel like your nanny’s personal life interferes with her job?

6.Do you feel like you can trust your nanny with confidential private family matters?

7.Does your nanny pay attention to the instructions given to her?

8.Does she show initiative and effort towards her job?


1.Do you feel like your nanny shows maintenance to your house to your satisfaction?

2.Does your nanny clean up after your children at the end of the day?

3.Does she do the laundry to your satisfaction?

4.Are the meals prepared on time?

5.Does she do the housekeeping to your satisfaction?

Areas of strengths:

Areas of improvements:


1. Do your clients come home to release you on time?

2. Do your clients respect your personal life?

3. Do your clients communicate effectively?

4. Do your clients provide the materials needed to make your job easier?

5. What can they do different to make you improve your nanny skills?

6.Do you feel like your suggestions are well received?

7.If your clients work from home, do they respect your time alone with the kids?

8.Do the clients respect the schedule you have with the children?

9.If you are a live-in, do your clients respect your privacy?
10. What do you feel your clients should improve in that will make your communication better?



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FAMILY NIGHTMARE October 29, 2012

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I have to admit, this has probably been the worst nightmare that has ever take place in the nanny industry.. I have really cried upon hearing this dreadful news.. My heart and prayers goes out to the mourning family that lost their two beautiful children in this most tragic event.. never to be forgotten…

It seems like the nanny had been facing some challenges in her life that she obviously brought to her work place and caused her do this incriminating act of murder to the children she was taking care of. There is simply no acceptable excuse for what she did. As I follow the story, it seems that the family had noticed a change in her behaviour and requested that she would see psychological help.

In my book “How to get the best out of your Nanny” I talk about “nanny characteristics for hire” I also list “tell-tale signs during a nanny interview” it is vital that you as the parent hiring to pay attention to certain behaviours during the interview and also in the course of the nanny working for you. Don’t ignore the signs!! A source in the news, says that the family the nanny worked for recommended their nanny to babysit for their friend as a side gig, but did not go forth with hiring her because they noticed that she was “grumpy”.
It’s important that the nanny you hire is psychological and mentally fit for the position, pay attention to her moods, talk to her about her life outside of work, go out for dinners once in a while and get a feel for what is really going on with her, create the atmosphere of an open relationship with you where she can feel she can talk to you about herself. These are very important, especially since she is caring for the most priced possession you will ever own.

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Are you nurturing your child’s gift?

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A friend of mind and I were enjoying  a conversation on different ways of child upbringing and ways of how as a parent/caregiver can contribute to making sure you child fulfills his/her purpose.

Like I mentioned in my blog prior to this one, understanding your child’s love language is vital because in doing so you help bring out the best in your child. I also give five steps of how to successfully identify your child’s love language. Nurturing your child’s gifts are just as important.  I sometimes come across parents who impose on their children what they expect them to become, and in such instances I find there seems to be some withdrawals in the relationship between parents and children. 

As a parent/caregiver, you must allow you child to express its purpose and you as the caregiver your responsibility is to nurture it.  In my personal experience as a nanny, i take on the responsibility of exploring various classes/activities i think the child might enjoy. In this particular instance, I thought that enrolling my 3.5 year old girlie girl into a ballet class was brilliant, i mean which girl does not like ballet I thought, after all she loooveed to watch “angelina ballerina”, but to my utmost surprise, she cried and cried throughout the class, she just hated it.. I was confused and the same time sad that i had contributed to her sadness by assumption and so instead of forcing her into it, i let it go and told her whenever she is ready we would try it again, but i let her know, she didn’t have to. A lady whose child was in the same ballet class thought to advice me to just keep taking her and that she would just adjust… I thought to myself “whaaattt?, I don’t think so” Is the ballet class for me or for her.. she is big enough to decide and just because she is a girl, does NOT mean she must comply with peoples expectations, plus my responsibility is not to put her thru trauma by letting her cry each time she was going to ballet, my responsibility as her nanny is to make sure she is happy and secure.

A lot of parents want to live their lives vicariously through their children, forcing them to participate and do things they do not want to do. Your child came into this world with a purpose of its own, not to do the things that you wished that you had done or want to do.

Take time to examine what your child likes to do, It might be your child loves drums or musical instruments yet you don’t care for music, well you can’t say you are not going to invest in buying drums because you hate noise, that’s selfish.. maybe playing drums for child brings out the best out of them and maybe he/she is called to be one of the best drummers their generation has ever known, DON’T ROB your child of it’s calling because you come from a family line of doctors and yet your child chooses the path of a drummer, who is to say which occupation is better. Status is not everything, but being happy with what you are is worth more than anything. So let your child free, Identify the gift and nurture it.  I promise you, he/she will be the happiest loving child.



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Do you understand your child’s language of love? October 18, 2012

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In my years of experience as a nanny, I have realized the importance of quality care. It goes further than just feeding the children and changing diapers, it’s also about how your care for the child psychologically and making sure they are shaped and molded to becoming confident with themselves. How do you as the caregiver and parent nurture their future? and have you really taken the time to study the child’s language of love so that you can deal with them effectively?
Gary chapman, an author of the best-selling book, The 5 love languages talks about 5 love languages which are the primary ways of expressing and interpreting love. Everyone has a love language and if you can take the time to identify which one speaks to who then you have won that child into a great place for the rest of her life. You will then learn how to bring the best out of that child in a great way.
The five love languages are:
Words of affirmation
Quality time
Receiving gifts
Acts of service
physical touch

When you take care or have multiple children, it’s so easy to think that one love language works for all, but that is not true. Every child is different in their own way and being able to see and identify their love language will help you relate with the child better.

I have been reading a book that has helped me in many areas called ” seven laws of a learner” by bruce wilkinson.
One of the strategies he talks about in getting results with the people you influence is learning how to communicate and connect inorder to get a response. As a nanny and parent, you want to make sure that you are getting results you want from your children, but in order to do so you must learn to do 5 things
1. Examine- Take time to examine your child’s behaviours take note of the weaknesses and strengths
2. Expose- When you see your child improving on a certain area of difficulty such as potty training or behavioral issues. Always affirm their action in a positive way
3. Emotion- After affirming positively their behaviour, let them know how that made you feel
4. Expect- Now speak about the expectations of that behaviour in the future, help them see what a great impact it will be to them later in life.
5. Endear-Always end by affirming them with a touch or eye contact or a hug.

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AUPAIR DISTRESS September 20, 2012

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An au pair is a domestic assistant from a foreign country working for, and living as part of, a host family. Most of the time an au pair will do childcare and take on some housework responsibility for only a fraction of a price. Alot of families have resulted to getting au pairs due to financial decisions because it’s cheaper to hire an au pair than a regular nanny. Even though it seems cheaper to the parents, there are some things to consider. An au pair is under contract for only one year, and because of that most parents don’t realize the attachment issues that affect the children each time they switch au pairs. Children need consistency and security knowing that they can trust you and know that you will be consistent with them. Children do not need instability as far as caregiving.
Most au pairs are overworked and as a result, end up despising their career. As a parent, you don’t want an unhappy caregiver taking care of your children.
I just had a conversation with an au pair who shared her experience with me, she just started 2.5 months ago and she is seems to be counting down to the time her contract will be over, this is not a good sign. She complained that she feels like she is a mother, father, sister, brother, taxi driver and employee. She expressed her intial confusion of when she first started, she was bombarded with all sorts of responsibilities as far as laundry, tidying up the children’s room, picking up and dropping off the children to and fro various activities and for the money she is getting she has now realized this was NOT a good deal. When au pairs get here and begin to mingle with other nannies and compare the prices
As parents, keep in mind that au pairs don’t really have experience as nannies and so it takes time to get used the responsibilities.
Don’t get me wrong, there are some awesome au pairs out there who are willing to adjust and rise to the occasion.
As a parent wanting to hire an au pair, take seriously into consideration the attachment issues your child might have.
My personal recommendation is to try and get an au pair for much older children, so as to eliminate the attachment issues.

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Keeping your child safe is arguably the most important thing in the world when you are a parent, making sure that little Danny doesn’t fall down and skin his knees, or that Sarah doesn’t touch the dog next door are some of the things that people focus on when they have children. However, even with all of the elbow pads, knee pads and helmets in the world, children are never safe until you focus first on making your home a safe place for them.


Parents often overlook the most obvious place of danger in a child’s life, their own home. Often these places are seen as safe and secure for your child to wander around, if you’re in the next room nothing bad can happen to them, right? However, with all of the every day objects that can be pulled apart or chewed on, it takes a little bit of effort to keep your child safe and healthy in their own homes.


Safety in the home is not difficult to manage as long as a few important steps are looked over and maintained as your child grows from a wiggling crawling baby to an explorative and curious toddler who’s just itching to grab a hold of something and examine it.


Lock Up and Hide Anything Digestible.


Most cleaning products and bathing products contain sweet and savoury smells to make them more appealing to use. Unfortunately, not only does it appeal to you, but it appeals to your child as well. Young children like to constantly taste test what they think might taste good, and a good indication of what tastes good to them is how it smells.


If you take the extra time to put a few locks on the doors to the cabinet that are used to store those chemical cleaners you may use on your floors or furnishings, a poisonous drink of bleach followed by a trip to the ER can be prevented. Children won’t be able to get into your cabinets or at least it will take them a lot longer to even try, giving you time to discover what they’re doing and put a stop to it.


Get Rid of Tiny Pieces of Things.


Take a look at your floor, are there marbles rolling around or other small toys that could be choked on? Same with anything on your coffee tables and stands, if the surface is at a level a child could reach with ease, it is safer to clean it up. Get rid of anything that has tiny parts that can be easily pulled off and put into a small child’s mouth. If it’s something that can’t be gotten rid of easily, then place it somewhere where your child cannot reach it. Either in a locked cupboard or on a surface too high for them to reach the top of will do.


Secure Items that can be Easily Tipped Over.


Nothing is more terrifying than the possibility of your child reaching to grab something off of a table and knocking the whole thing over on top of them. Items that have even the slightest chance of toppling over with any amount of force that could be provided by a toddler should be bolted to the ground or secured in such a way that there is no chance of the child knocking something that they shouldn’t on top of them.


Not only avoid having furniture around that is prone to toppling, don’t leave things that can be pulled down within reach of small children. Things like tablecloths shouldn’t be left hanging over the edges of tables, especially when dishes or lamps are left on top of them as it can be easy for children to pull them down.



Watch out for Sharp Corners/Tight Squeezes.


         This should go without saying but managing to tape up or pad any sharp corners on tables, chairs and any furniture can mean the difference between stumbling around on new baby legs, falling and ending up with a little bump on your head or ending up with a huge cut on your head. Sharp corners can be dangerous on little toes, fingers and heads so you will want to make sure that those stay covered and that cabinet doors that don’t hold chemicals are slow closing so that little fingers don’t get pinched in between the hinges.


Keep an Eye Out for Trouble.


         One of the easiest ways to secure your children’s safety in your home is just by simply keeping a careful watch on them. Just because your child is at home with you doesn’t mean they are safe in another room. Keeping a close eye on them when they are playing can mean more than any baby-proofing can. How much trouble can someone get too if their parent has a constant surveillance on where they wander and what they pick up or touch.


         It’s also a good idea to keep an ear out too, listen to what your child is saying if they can speak or listen to what they are touching if it makes a sound. If you hear anything going on that shouldn’t be than it’s a good idea to keep a personal eye on them so that they don’t get into mischief.

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