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Time Management March 22, 2016

I have been nannying for over 25 years now, I actually now have my own licensed nanny agency. It’s a pretty cool business to have especially because I love that I get to share my expertise of this industry with both nanny and client.

In my years of being in the childcare, a lot of parents have asked how I am able to make sure I keep my kids on schedule with all that they participate in and still manage to have the house in order, now I don’t do deep housecleaning, but its kept in order.

My secret is time management. I have to intentionally decide to time everything, and i mean everything. I actually make time for last minute tantrums, and by that I make sure I leave room for crying cause “the waffle was not the flavor they wanted” or  because ” I must wear snow boots in the 60degree weather”. It’s amazing the kind of things that can cause a 15 minute delay to you leaving the house on time for school drop off. Without time management you can be so lost and end up so frustrated.

I keep a consistent schedule of what I do from the moment I walk into the door. The routine is so consistent that the kids know exactly what to expect. Now I know it can sound redundant, but here’s the thing, Kids love routine, they yearn for it, they live for it, they act better with it. Don’t feel like you are being a boring parent or nanny if the schedule is always the same. In fact experts say that daily routines brings feelings of predictability and  security which children desperately need.

Time management is very effective not just in the cooperate world but in the home especially when dealing with children. Time management is not just effective for the children but also for you as the adult. If you are having a challenge keeping time, start by writing down your to do and estimate how long it will take to do each task/activity. If you are starting your routine, make sure you stick to it, it might be hard at first, but they will soon get on the bandwagon. Remember, Don’t quit!!!



NANNY REPORT CARD March 27, 2013

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It is important that you take a moment yearly to evaluate your nanny’s job performance in order to give accolades or identify areas for improvement.
The nanny report card is designed to facilitate communication between the nanny and the parent. Communication is the vane of most relationships, an effective open dialogue between the parents and the nannies will yield the greatest results in the child.

In my book “ How to Get the Best out of your Nanny” I talk about the importance on communication between a parent and a nanny. For the parents to get the best out of their nanny, they must communicate! Parents that fail to communicate end up in a soured situation that can easily leave a “dent” on the child’s behavior pattern. Children tend to feed of of our emotions, so if they feel there is tension or a negative reaction to how you treat your nanny, it will show in their behavior.

In addition the report card can be used to honor the nanny with an annual raise and or bonus based on performance and appreciation. So having a report card is a great way to allow the nanny to see how well she performs since communication is a two way act of imparting or exchanging of information I have also written a report card that a nanny can use to evaluate the parents as well. Nannies sometimes feel that there are things they can communicate that will help make the job easier and fun especially for the sake of the children.



1. Do you feel that your nanny is attentive to the child’s safety?

If not, how should she improve?

2. Do you feel that your nanny is meeting your child’s needs?

If not, what do you suggest she does to improve on meeting your child’s needs?

3.Do you feel like your nanny is attentive to your child’s hygiene?
(diaper changing, bath, nail clipping, washing children’s hands.. etc)

If not, what should she do to help improve on your child’s hygiene?

4.Do you feel like you nanny is engaged in appropriate play and activities that help in the child’s growth?

If not, what do you suggest she should do to help her engage the children?

5. Do you think that your nanny is involved in preparing healthy nutritious meals and snacks for the children?

If not, what types of meals and snacks would you like to see her give the children?

6. Do you feel like your nanny shows warmth, love and care to your children?

If not, in what way would you like her to show your children she cares?

7.Do you feel like she disciplines the children according your wishes?

8. If not, give examples of some scenarios where you feel she did not


1.Does your nanny arrive to work on time most of the time?

If not, would you like her to improve on her punctuality?

2.Do you feel like your nanny is dependable and reliable?

3.Do you think your nanny shows professionalism?

4. Does your nanny communicate effectively to you about the welfare of your child?

If not, how should she improve?

5.Do you feel like your nanny’s personal life interferes with her job?

6.Do you feel like you can trust your nanny with confidential private family matters?

7.Does your nanny pay attention to the instructions given to her?

8.Does she show initiative and effort towards her job?


1.Do you feel like your nanny shows maintenance to your house to your satisfaction?

2.Does your nanny clean up after your children at the end of the day?

3.Does she do the laundry to your satisfaction?

4.Are the meals prepared on time?

5.Does she do the housekeeping to your satisfaction?

Areas of strengths:

Areas of improvements:


1. Do your clients come home to release you on time?

2. Do your clients respect your personal life?

3. Do your clients communicate effectively?

4. Do your clients provide the materials needed to make your job easier?

5. What can they do different to make you improve your nanny skills?

6.Do you feel like your suggestions are well received?

7.If your clients work from home, do they respect your time alone with the kids?

8.Do the clients respect the schedule you have with the children?

9.If you are a live-in, do your clients respect your privacy?
10. What do you feel your clients should improve in that will make your communication better?



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ATTITUDE- A great attitude goes a long way, an attitude carries an altitude of how you will proceed with your day. An attitude is contagious and as a nanny you become a role model to the children that are under your care, so a positive attitude is vital.

BELIEVE- As a nanny, you must believe in what you do. A great nanny is unable to reach her maximum potential unless she can believe in her skills.

COURAGE-its defined as a quality of mind or spirit that enables a person to face difficulty, danger, pain, etc. Courage is a characteristic a nanny must have in order to be effective in caring for children. You cannot be afraid, or else the children pick up on it and adopt it as their own characteristic.

DETERMINATION- you must be determined to make a great impact in the children’s lives. You must be able to have the capacity to establish the right guidelines in a child’s lives.

EFFERVESCENCE- you have to portray an enthusiastic behavior towards the children you care for. Children need to know that they can be free to express themselves without being put down

FRIENDLY- a nanny that shows kindness will find it easier to relate with children. In order to build a trustworthy relationship with the children you have to prove to be friendly.

GREGARIOUS- you have to be a nanny that is sociable and willing to be in the company of other nannies.

HONEST- they say honesty is the best policy. Being able to be honest with your clients is a valuable character that no money can buy. Honesty creates an open line of communication, which is what you want

IMAGINATIVE- you have to be creative and be able to come up with ideas on how to keep the children busy and entertained that will instill both educational and developmental skills.

JOYOUS- A happy caregiver makes a happy child. A sad countenance relays insecurity towards the children, so making sure you are happy in the presence of the children is very important

KNOWLEDGEABLE- A nanny that is knowledgeable can be very valuable to the family she works for. Take time to keep yourself updated on safety concerns, health foods, e.t.c

LOVE- is what they say makes the world go round. A nanny without love is like the day without the sun. Love promotes growth in the inside and out. Children need to be loved.

MATURITY- A nanny must also prove that she can be able to psychologically respond to a circumstance or situation in an appropriate manner.

NURTURER- children need to feel nourished emotionally, so it is important for a nanny to cultivate a nurturing spirit

OPEN-MINDED- being able to be receptive to ideas in a moments notice is essential. Children love to come up with creative imaginative ideas and having a nanny that can be pliable and open-minded is ideal.

PATIENCE- Is having the ability to bear, no nanny should ever care give without the ability to bear with children’s unpredictable behaviors. This is one of the most important characteristics every nanny must have.

QUINESSENTIAL- if you can represent the most perfect or typical example of what a caretaker should be, it will definitely be of value to the children you care for. They will carry that example for the rest of their lives and will probably practice the views they have learned from you to the people around them

RESPONSIBLE- a nanny has to prove to be accountable and have the capability to make mature rational decisions.

SUBMISSIVE- a teachable spirit goes a long way. Being able to listen to your employers is valuable. Remember you are hired to enhance THEIR family values not lead yours.

TIME-MANAGEMENT- without having the ability to manage time, developing an effective schedule or routine is impossible. Children are most responsive to routine so the ability to be time conscious is a plus

UNIQUE- what positive thing or character about you makes children drawn to you? You cannot a strong effective nanny if you are looking to compare or compete with other nannies.

VIGOROUS- a nanny has to possess physical and mental strength.

WITTY- laughter is medicine to the soul. Being able to characterize humor is important to the children.

X-RAY- examine yourself daily. Are you emotionally/ mentally stable and capable in giving yourself wholly to children without losing your cool in a moment’s notice?

YIELDED- be a nanny that is willing to give yourself as required to the children needs.

ZEALOUS- You cannot be an effective nanny unless you are passionate in what you do. When you are zealous about care giving it becomes more than just a duty, it becomes a true passion.



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ENCOURAGE MORE– be a better encourager in 2013. Nothing contributes to a child’s development than encouraging words and actions. Children are always looking to be affirmed and acknowledged in everything they do. So make it your duty to show them you care by using encouraging words.

HUG MORE– you might not be the affectionate mother or caregiver but affection has always seemed to nurture the emotional aspect of every human being in a positive way. I hardly hear of kids going bad due to lots of hugs and kisses. So in 2013, hug your children more.

TALK MORE./[+”\- find out more about your children by talking to them. I always encourage a conversation with the children I care for by asking questions about their weekend/ school. Don’t rush the conversation and don’t accept yes or no answers. You will be surprised how open they can get. Also when talking to your children, don’t shut them down or tell them how crazy that sounds. Keep the lines of Communication open with your children and using words such as ” that’s the most ridiculous thing I’ve ever heard” is no way going to improve your communication.

EAT TOGETHER MORE- a family that eats together stays together, this year find time and ways to gather round a table and eat together. Something about that just seems to bring bond between you and your kids. If you are a caregiver, try doing lunches or snacks together, it’s amazing how kids feel a lot more drawn to you during these times.

EXPRESS YOURSELF MORE- Parents or caregivers, don’t shy off by telling your children you love them. As a nanny, I make sure I let my child(lol)know that I love her when I drop her off to school. Even if the morning has been hectic with temper tantrums and emotional sighs, I still let her know I love her because at the end of that day, that’s all that matters.

So parents and caregivers, sit back, relax and enjoy life…
Cheers to 2013!!! Now let’s make a positive difference in their lives.



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Are you nurturing your child’s gift? October 29, 2012

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A friend of mind and I were enjoying  a conversation on different ways of child upbringing and ways of how as a parent/caregiver can contribute to making sure you child fulfills his/her purpose.

Like I mentioned in my blog prior to this one, understanding your child’s love language is vital because in doing so you help bring out the best in your child. I also give five steps of how to successfully identify your child’s love language. Nurturing your child’s gifts are just as important.  I sometimes come across parents who impose on their children what they expect them to become, and in such instances I find there seems to be some withdrawals in the relationship between parents and children. 

As a parent/caregiver, you must allow you child to express its purpose and you as the caregiver your responsibility is to nurture it.  In my personal experience as a nanny, i take on the responsibility of exploring various classes/activities i think the child might enjoy. In this particular instance, I thought that enrolling my 3.5 year old girlie girl into a ballet class was brilliant, i mean which girl does not like ballet I thought, after all she loooveed to watch “angelina ballerina”, but to my utmost surprise, she cried and cried throughout the class, she just hated it.. I was confused and the same time sad that i had contributed to her sadness by assumption and so instead of forcing her into it, i let it go and told her whenever she is ready we would try it again, but i let her know, she didn’t have to. A lady whose child was in the same ballet class thought to advice me to just keep taking her and that she would just adjust… I thought to myself “whaaattt?, I don’t think so” Is the ballet class for me or for her.. she is big enough to decide and just because she is a girl, does NOT mean she must comply with peoples expectations, plus my responsibility is not to put her thru trauma by letting her cry each time she was going to ballet, my responsibility as her nanny is to make sure she is happy and secure.

A lot of parents want to live their lives vicariously through their children, forcing them to participate and do things they do not want to do. Your child came into this world with a purpose of its own, not to do the things that you wished that you had done or want to do.

Take time to examine what your child likes to do, It might be your child loves drums or musical instruments yet you don’t care for music, well you can’t say you are not going to invest in buying drums because you hate noise, that’s selfish.. maybe playing drums for child brings out the best out of them and maybe he/she is called to be one of the best drummers their generation has ever known, DON’T ROB your child of it’s calling because you come from a family line of doctors and yet your child chooses the path of a drummer, who is to say which occupation is better. Status is not everything, but being happy with what you are is worth more than anything. So let your child free, Identify the gift and nurture it.  I promise you, he/she will be the happiest loving child.



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Do you understand your child’s language of love? October 18, 2012

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In my years of experience as a nanny, I have realized the importance of quality care. It goes further than just feeding the children and changing diapers, it’s also about how your care for the child psychologically and making sure they are shaped and molded to becoming confident with themselves. How do you as the caregiver and parent nurture their future? and have you really taken the time to study the child’s language of love so that you can deal with them effectively?
Gary chapman, an author of the best-selling book, The 5 love languages talks about 5 love languages which are the primary ways of expressing and interpreting love. Everyone has a love language and if you can take the time to identify which one speaks to who then you have won that child into a great place for the rest of her life. You will then learn how to bring the best out of that child in a great way.
The five love languages are:
Words of affirmation
Quality time
Receiving gifts
Acts of service
physical touch

When you take care or have multiple children, it’s so easy to think that one love language works for all, but that is not true. Every child is different in their own way and being able to see and identify their love language will help you relate with the child better.

I have been reading a book that has helped me in many areas called ” seven laws of a learner” by bruce wilkinson.
One of the strategies he talks about in getting results with the people you influence is learning how to communicate and connect inorder to get a response. As a nanny and parent, you want to make sure that you are getting results you want from your children, but in order to do so you must learn to do 5 things
1. Examine- Take time to examine your child’s behaviours take note of the weaknesses and strengths
2. Expose- When you see your child improving on a certain area of difficulty such as potty training or behavioral issues. Always affirm their action in a positive way
3. Emotion- After affirming positively their behaviour, let them know how that made you feel
4. Expect- Now speak about the expectations of that behaviour in the future, help them see what a great impact it will be to them later in life.
5. Endear-Always end by affirming them with a touch or eye contact or a hug.

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